Trust is not enough
Just because we trust someone with our children that does not mean our children are protected, that they are safe. Too often we hear in families when a child is sexually abused by someone else (especially those within the family or friendship circle,) people are often surprised, but the fact is that 80 percent of cases where a child is abused it is by someone the child knows. I was warned about stranger danger often as a child and my mother had no idea that for six long years, the man that she trusted was sexually abusing her little daughter on a regular basis. I was never talked to about body safety, or the possibility of abuse happening in the home, even though I was raised by a mother who experienced sexual abuse at the hands of her own family, and also domestic abuse.
Almost every person I know in my real life that has had any experience with sexual abuse as a child was carried out by a male family member they all loved. These are the fathers, step-fathers, brothers, uncles and grandfathers, husbands and lovers, friends.