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Identifying parental behaviors- NAAP

Illusory truth In high conflict divorces, sometimes, one parent uses the illusory truth effect leading the child to believe they do not want to see or talk to one of their parents or convince the child their parent does not care about them. In actuality, the rejected parent is eager to cultivate the parent-child relationship. Instead, the child is embroiled in a bitter battle called the illusory truth effect by the alienating parent. The illusory truth effect is a concept evolving from a 1977 study.

This is important in high conflict divorces because repetition supersedes prior knowledge.

The child may recall a close and loving relationship with their parent yet; the illusory truth effect means the child perceives the repeated negative statements as the truth. Negative comments, albeit false, are replacing what the child knows to be true by the erroneous reports they are hearing. In essence, constant exposure to the harmful facts becomes the child’s new reality.

Research in 2008 found when the child is experiencing high stress due to abuse, physiological changes may affect memory storage and the illusory truth effect may be more intense. A child in the throes of a high conflict divorce may experience distress making the child more vulnerable to the ‘facts’ directed at them, therefore exacerbating an already volatile situation. Utilizing the illusory truth effect is emotionally destructive
and traumatizing to the child.

Quotes from children on shared parenting
Ages 4-7: “This is all very confusing. I am soooo confused.”

Ages 8-12: “Dad couldn’t be as bad as mom says he is.”

Ages 13-18: “…I had to face betrayal, abandonment, loneliness, and my family is
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NAAP Educational DVD – NAAP

This DVD is for parents, teachers, social workers and anyone working with Alienated Children.

Please click on the link below to watch the DVD

NAAP educational DVD

https://alienatedparents.org.uk/2019/02/23/naap-educational-dvd/

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NAAP – WELCOME TO THE NATIONAL ASSOCIATION OF ALIENATED PARENTS

At NAAP it is our aim for our members to be as well trained, if not better trained, than the ‘professionals’ we are often told we can trust and rely upon. We think that our members are entitled to know just how inadequate and deficient the training is that schools recieve on PA and emotional harm. Remember that schools are in the front-line of child protection. Furthermore, they are regularly asked by social workers, including CAFCASS to provide comments and observations for inclusion in their reports. These reports are afforded a great deal of weight and the ‘expertise’ of teachers is respected and highly valued by our family courts. The input of schools and teachers to court determinations is often key to their outcomes and rulings. School input can tip the balance or heavily influence courts when they make life altering decisions about our children.

Therefore we are entitled to expect the training they receive to be beyond reproach, comprehensive and of the highest order…RIGHT??

THE NAAP REPORT click here for report

https://alienatedparents.org.uk/

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Off for a few days reading!!!! A New Earth

An article in Success magazine describes A New Earth as a “self-improvement book” that encourages its readers to live their lives in each present moment and to create happiness for themselves without emphasizing material possessions.[2] Tolle’s intent is to change the way human beings think, and he envisions a world population that is increasingly humble, enlightened and pure.[2] According to Tolle, the book’s purpose “is not to add new information or beliefs to your mind or to try to convince you of anything, but to bring about a shift in consciousness”.[3]

In the book, Tolle asserts that everyone can find “the freedom and joy of life” if they live in the present moment.[4] The book describes human dysfunction, selfishness, anxiety and the inhumanity we inflict on each other, as well as mankind’s failed attempts to find life meaning and purpose through material possessions and unhealthy relationships.[1] It asserts that thoughts can have a powerful and beneficial “effect on the healing process”,[4] and puts forth a concept of “evolutionary transformation of human consciousness” which prompts the reader to participate in “honest self-evaluation [that] can lead to positive change.”[4]

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Detecting Lies and Deceit: The Psychology of Lying and the Implications for Professional Practice

Why do people lie, and how can lies be detected? There is now a substantial psychological literature relating to these fundamental questions, and this book reviews the relevant knowledge in detail, before focusing on guidelines for best practice in detecting deception. Psychological research is now available on individual differences in lying behaviour (gender differences, age differences and personality). There is also interesting research evidence of the ways in which deception is reflected both in real objective non-verbal behaviour and also in the perceived non-verbal cues which can help or mislead the observer in detecting deception. Although the book does include a major survey of the physiological aspects of deception and the polygraph as a method of detection, it also includes a thorough review of current knowledge of content analysis and validity assessment of speech and written statements. The book ends by discussing how professionals can improve lie detection by focusing on key aspects of the behaviour of the liar and by awareness and control of their own behaviour.

  • Covers all three aspects of deception?non-verbal cues, speech and written statement analysis, and physiological responses
  • Focuses on the behaviour and perceptions of the observer which can hinder the process of detection
  • Based on the author?s expert review of the research and evidence, and on his practical experience and connections with several police forces

“Without doubt, this book is the most important contribution to research and practice in lie detection to be published in years. For the first time research about verbal, nonverbal and physiological correlates of truth telling and deception are reviewed comprehensively in one text. This book will benefit those who have to decide whether people are telling the truth or lying, because it both reviews contemporary research and provides practical guidelines.” Frans Willem Winkel, Free University of Amsterdam President EAPL (European Association of Psychology and Law) This book is aimed at students, academics and professionals in psychology, criminology, policing and law.

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Signs You’re Totally Getting Played

Intuition.

Intuition is an extremely powerful force.

If you think something is wrong, chances are you are right. Experience has made me almost a pro at knowing when I’m being lied to or whether I should be suspicious of someone.

It sucks, but when, deep down, you feel something is not right, you should listen to yourself. You will start to put pieces together.

You are noticing it for a reason. You caught a glimpse of a text message weeks ago? You remember something he or she said to you on your first date that is now resurfacing?

When you start to put the pieces together, your suspicions will, without a doubt, be right.

I am telling you, if you don’t listen to anything else I say, listen to this: Intuition is your best friend.

It is so powerful, you simply cannot ignore it, so don’t. Step back and reevaluate.

Understand that this feeling may never go away then decide what you will do with it. If you choose to ignore it, be prepared for the consequences.

Now, are you ready for the big twist to this story? Sometimes, it is your fault that you got played.

You saw all these signs, and your gut was trying to tell you something was not right.

You chose to ignore it because you didn’t want to totally lose this person who had so much potential in your life.

Of course, knowing that you should walk away doesn’t sound all that fabulous, so you don’t.

And guess what? You got played, and the only one who got hurt from it was you. And really, it is your fault for letting it happen. That’s the cold, hard truth.

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Hate The Player And The Game: 7 Signs You’re Totally Getting Played

You have something he or she wants.

Ever offered to help with something? Isn’t it funny how someone will swoon for you, sweet talk you and make you feel like the only person in his or her world until he or she gets what he or she wanted?

You helped this person in one way or another, so now, the person doesn’t have to try so hard.

He or she will step back and push you away a little bit because he or she doesn’t really need anything from you anymore.

You played your part, so now you have to go. Or maybe, he or she doesn’t really want you to go for good, but you are no longer a top priority. You will know when that happens. Timing is everything.

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Dealing with People Who Talk Only About Themselves | Psychologia

The type of people we are talking about are only interested in a conversation if it’s about them or something related to them.

They are utterly uninterested in the listener, and even if they ask any questions, it comes across as superficial politeness, especially that they rarely wait for the answer or take time to listen until the end.

If a conversation drifts toward a different topic, they will find a way to interrupt you and redirect the limelight onto themselves again.

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Megalomania or egocentrism

A narcissist is someone who is excessively preoccupied with themselves. Synonyms for narcissism: megalomania or egocentrism. They love to talk about themselves, take selfies and be the center of attention.

Dr. Judith Orloff has a quiz to see if you are dealing with a narcissist. So, think about the person and answer these questions:

  • Does the person act as if life revolves around them?
  • Do I have to compliment this person to get their attention or approval?
  • Do they constantly steer the conversation back to themselves?
  • Do they downplay your feelings or interests?
  • If you disagree, do they become cold or withholding?

If you answered “yes” to one or two questions, you are probably dealing with a narcissist. Read ahead for what to do next:

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Self-Absorption: The Root of All (Psychological) Evil? | Psychology Today

Experts on pathological narcissism routinely speak of self-absorption as perhaps the most “identifying” trait of this personality disorder. And their descriptions of such an intense self-focus are anything but flattering. The self-absorption of narcissists betrays their grandiosity, sense of entitlement, lack of empathy, and exploitative relationships. Borderline personalities are also characterized as self-absorbed—so self-absorbed that these individuals frequently can’t discern what’s going on around them, not only interpreting what others say and do but regularly arriving at false conclusions as to how others regard them.

But though all narcissists and borderlines are self-absorbed, not all self-absorbed individuals warrant being appreciated as portraying either personality disorder. And as I indicated earlier, many other personality disturbances can be seen as involving self-absorption (histrionic, paranoid, avoidant, dependent, and obsessive-compulsive).

What mental health professionals sometimes fail to sufficiently account for is:

  • The pivotal function that self-absorption plays in mood disorders—and in a large variety of other non-personality disorders as well
  • How self-absorption is best understood as a key strategy that susceptible people employ to protect themselves from immediate mental and emotional threats.