“It’s tied in with self-esteem. We find that as soon as people feel that their self-esteem is threatened, they immediately begin to lie at higher levels.”
We’ve put together a list of twelve reasons why people lie; perhaps this will help you understand your own motives for when you have a slip of the tongue too.
“Lying can bail us out of awkward situations. Spare the feelings of others. Preserve or strengthen alliances. Enhance social standing. Keep us out of trouble. Even save our lives.
“Which brings us to the evolutionary biology of cognition because lying is, in fact, a valuable tool in the survival kit of any social species.”
That doesn’t make it okay, though.
Lying is convenient for the most part, as long as you don’t have to recount your story again later.
People tend to lie because they are trying to avoid punishment, either from parents, friends, coworkers, loved ones, or their boss.