We have a bizarrely innate talent for seeing things as way less painful/traumatic in retrospect, and this goes for physical pain as well as emotional pain (maybe it’s a self-preservation thing?! I dunno). So essentially, when we have a bout of fantasising about the past and living in it, we often completely gloss over the whole reason behind why it is our past, and not our present! Almost as if that part isn’t of any relevance or importance.
But it’s E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G honey! And that’s what we need to focus on. For whatever reason something might be in your past, remind yourself there’s a really good reason why it’s there and not your ‘now’.
Does this sound like you?