I was married previously and have grown-up children. I get on fine with them, although I don’t see all that much of them now, as they are getting on with their own lives. I’m actually a grandfather a couple of times; they have gone on to have their own children. My problem is that my wife is very jealous if I have anything to do with my ex-wife and she’s really not too keen on me having much to do with my other children or grandchildren. She just wants us to be a family unit and says that herself and our daughter should be the most important people in my life.
I think that your wife is being most unreasonable, and I feel that the more you give in and allow her to lay down the law, the more she will walk all over you. No matter how much she would like it to be otherwise, you were married previously and you have children and grandchildren, and you are entitled to be a part of their lives just as they are entitled to be a part of yours.