Let’s Not Normalize Abuse
Some people accurately recognize these things as a violation of another person’s boundaries. Others may only identify a few of them as abusive, and other people only recognize them as violations against others, but not against themselves.
Sometimes, unfortunately, those who have been on the receiving end of abuse think that the horrific, vile, disgusting, and hurtful things that they have experienced are normal or “not that bad.” This is because we tend to normalize our painful experiences in order to make them emotionally more bearable.
But it is not normal. And trauma and being hurt is not a contest. If somebody violates your personal boundaries, especially if you’re a child who is dependent on the perpetrator, the consequences are often devastating and even lifelong.
Narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, manipulators, predators, abuse apologists, and other people with dark personality traits have a warped sense of normalcy. They either think that abnormal and immoral behavior and thoughts are normal—or they think…