3. Playing the victim
A toxic grandparent is someone with an overinflated ego and the lack of empathy for other people’s feelings. That makes them incapable of reflecting on their own flaws and wrongdoings. However, they are hyper aware of everyone else’s. Even the slightest offense can be perceived as an attack, and all of the sudden grandma is “sick,” or grandpa is having “chest pains.”
They act like they don’t want anyone to know, but this is very intentional. They aim to illicit sympathy and to remind everyone – kids and grandkids – that things need to be going theirway, or else.