But what the narcissist can’t do is dodge the effects of dementia. As a progressive indiscriminate disorder which sometimes transforms into Alzheimer’s or other disorders, dementia affects every area of the brain in a random order. What seemed natural and habitual now becomes foreign and difficult. Memory becomes scattered and unreliable. Familiar people become strangers or even enemies that are out to get them
Late-Stage: Very Severe Cognitive Decline. At the last stage, there is little to no communication, psychomotor skills, or walking. Everything requires assistance and the narcissist is a shell of what they once were. No longer able to recognize themselves or others, all of the narcissistic symptoms have disappeared along with their personality. Continue reading “The Fate Of Narcissism In Old Age”
Slowly but surely, the narcissist’s social circle dwindles away, one by one people disappear, no longer finding their behavior acceptable. Most people who have crossed their path in one way or another have borne witness to their deceit and toxicity.
Towards the end of their lives, there is often not one single living soul who cares whether they live or die. By the time the final curtain falls, they receive what I call poetic justice, getting back what they gave out to others all their lives. As they take their last breath, there’s not a hand to hold, everyone who once cared is long gone.
Call it Karma, call it God having the final say, call it what you will… I call it payback.
Continue reading “The Ageing Narcissist”
Aging itself can bring about a withering, if not bursting, of the narcissisticbubble. You’re no longer a fresh young thing and are starting to develop wrinkles, bags, sags, or a gray or bald head. Your clothes don’t fit the same way they did before, and you find you can no longer squeeze into your favorite skinny jeans, no matter what you do. Then there’s the inevitable “ma’am” or “sir” that the barista uses in referring to you (yes you, not the person behind you).
The factors that cause the narcissistic bubble to retreat and burst were addressed in an astute article by Eda Goldstein in 1995. Goldstein described what happens somewhere in the middle years when narcissists come to grips with their own failings, exposing their weaknesses to themselves. They can become both enraged and ashamed.
As she noted, there are dangers associated with the sudden coming to grips with reality that can put the individual’s life into a wild tailspin: Continue reading “When the Narcissist Has to Face Reality”
There continues to be debate in the psychological literature about what exactly constitutes empathy compared to other similar or related social-emotional processes. But researchers generally define empathy as the process by which we come to understand and share in the experiences of others. Researchers often describe this process as involving a) the observation and imagination of another person’s emotional state, b) experiencing an emotional state that matches that person’s emotional state, and c) knowing that the other person’s emotional state caused your own emotional state (Singer & Lamm, 2009). For example, when you see Jane experience sadness after losing someone close to her, you may come to understand and share in her experience by thinking about how sad she must feel. Continue reading “What is empathy?”
Empathy is a broad concept that refers to the cognitive and emotional reactions of an individual to the observed experiences of another. Having empathy increases the likelihood of helping others and showing compassion. “Empathy is a building block of morality—for people to follow the Golden Rule, it helps if they can put themselves in someone else’s shoes,” according to the Greater Good Science Center, a research institute that studies the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being. “It is also a key ingredient of successful relationships because it helps us understand the perspectives, needs, and intentions of others.” Continue reading “The Psychology of Emotional and Cognitive Empathy”
ED schema develops very early on in childhood in people where the main caregiver was not emotionally supportive. This is different from physical deprivation. The child was well-fed, had toys to play with, and their other physical needs were met too, but their emotional needs were ignored. It is actually the case that children are very stressed in these situations and tend to develop ways to try and make sense of them and their reactions.
When a child’s emotional needs are not met, he or she feels invisible, uncared for, and unimportant. Basically, they feel like their existence doesn’t matter. They fail to develop a connection to those around them. Continue reading “What Causes Emotional Deprivation Schema?”
Childhood Emotional Deprivation: Happens when there is an extreme absence of emotional attention and/or response given to an infant or child by her primary caretakers. Has been documented in orphanages, and in families where there are extreme physical absence of caretakers, abuse and trauma.
Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN): Happens when a child’s primary caretakers (usually his parents) fail to respond enough to the child’s emotional needs. Happens often in normal homes all over the world, even when the parents are physically present, and all the child’s material needs are met. Continue reading “Emotional Neglect and Emotional Deprivation are Not the Same”
Today, he admits that he is “obnoxiously competitive,” with a fierce need to win at arguments and games, even against his young grandchildren. But he is taking steps to show more empathy and make less selfish decisions. Not because it’s nice, but to prove to everyone that he is stronger than his genetics. “I want to show myself and everyone else that I can pull it off,” he says. Hey, whatever works, right?
Could someone in your own life—or even yourself—be like Fallon? Look out for these 13 signs you’re dealing with a psychopath. Continue reading “How One Neuroscientist Discovered He Was a Psychopath”
Psychopaths can never change PERMANENTLY. All changes are “short lived” due to the fact that their brains are built in a way that do not allow them to learn from their experiences. Faulty wiring that CANNOT be fixed. Any attempted changes to their ways generally they falter and they revert back to their “default” setting. In this sense, I really saw how hard he wanted to start a fresh, be good and make something out of his life BUT he was never able to sustain it for longer than a month? two months? a week? Each woman he hooked up with offered a new promise to a normal life – but he always fucked it up. And within a period of time (generally 2 years) the relationships were torn and tattered and he had to move on. Continue reading “Psychopaths can never change PERMANENTLY”