Why it Doesn’t Work
Narcissists look at things differently than the rest of us do. They are guided by emotion. Not logic, not reason and not intelligence. Emotion. This often causes their perception of things to be very, very different from other people’s. They view everything through the lens of feeling, and their feelings are generally negative, out of control and even frightening to them. This causes their perceptions and experiences to be negative and frightening to them as well. They believe feelings are facts. That’s not just a saying or a metaphor. They actually believe their feelings are facts. If they feel it, it must be true – regardless of whether it makes any sense or if they have proof or anything else.
Most people realize that feelings are not reliable. They sometimes make no sense, they’re sometimes irrational and they are certainly not facts. Most of us realize that high emotion can alter perception and that events viewed through the lens of emotion are often not viewed correctly.