Psychological games narcissists play
If you question them, they make excuses and tell you why it’s not their fault. If it’s not their bad past, it’s something you’ve done.
You made me angry. You shouldn’t have said that about me in front of your friends.
Whatever it is, they’ll find reason to blame everything or everyone else, but them.
Or they might just disappear. They may go into a rage, throw things or smash their fist into a wall and then walk out the door. You won’t see them for a few days and will wonder:
What have I done?
They’ll reappear and it will be as if nothing has happened. If you bring it up, you’ll be at fault for trying to create a problem in your relationship.
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My ex-wife has done exactly that. Everything that has been said she has done. And, I truly started believing that I am the abuser and that I have some mental issues. Down to the point that I did a voluntary psychological assessment [nothing wrong was found, I have a paper] and I wrote my personal blog calling myself abuse: iamtheabuser.wordpress.com but only now I start to understand the dynamics. She also alienated 2 older kids from me. I am sure though that she doesn’t even realize all these damages. She is a broken person, indeed. I feel sorry for her. But from now on, I’m keeping a distance.
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