There are signs that give a liar away.
- Blinking – Liars tend to move their arms, hands, and fingers less. They also blink less than people who tell the truth.
- Shifty Eyes – I think when a person has shifty eyes, it is the most common and easiest way to spot a liar.
- Pupils Change – When a person is under stress, adrenaline races through the body and causes the pupils to dilate. Lying is a stress inducing activity, so changing pupil size can be an indication that you’re talking to a liar.
- Folded Arms – Although this isn’t a dead giveaway, a person who often folds their arms in front of them to produce a barrier could be telling lies.
- Nose Toucher – When a person lies, they frequently touch the base of their nose.
- Wiggler – A liar wriggle, wiggles and fidgets because they are usually nervous about getting caught in their lie.
- High Pitched Voice – A liar is already tense and it often causes their voice to become high pitched.
- Pause – When lying, a person will often pause longer than the honest person.
- Ummmm – When telling lies and pausing, a liar will often fill time with ummm, er, well and other time filler words and sounds
- One Story – A liar has a story and they repeat it without any changes over and over again. They don’t “remember” anything new to add to the story because it is a lie that they will get confused if they change it too much.
- Question Repeat – A liar will often repeat the question that is asked. Usually, they are trying to stall for time to think of answer that makes sense with their lie.
- Too Much Information – A liar keeps talking and answers questions that no one is asking them.
- Makes No Sense – When pressured for details, a liar often provides answers that make no sense and are completely ridiculous.
- Non-Specific – Liars do not talk about the minutia. Instead, they talk about a few bold facts and avoid little details so that they won’t get confused or mess up their initial lies
- Ridiculous Smile – We can all tell a fake smile when we see it and a liar can’t smile genuinely. The smile is just pasted to the lips and never makes it up to the eyes.
- Guilt Tripping – Puppy dog eyes or accusational words are used by liars to put the guilt rip on you for doubting them.
- Sweating – Nervousness often causes sweating and liars are usually nervous about their lies. So a liar may sweat and may sweat profusely!
- Jaw Clincher – Liars may also clench their jaws.
- Tight Lipped – A tight face, especially the lips and mouth are often signs that a person is uncomfortable because they are lying.
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He’s the kind of person
who would play the victim
of the crimes that he himself
He is the kind of person
Who would act innocent and hurt
When in reality he’s nothing more
Than a snake in the grass.
He’ll say he’s your best friend
and then talk shit about you
Behind your back.
Never confess you innermost
Desires to such a person,
For he will use all of those secrets
Against you at the perfect opportunity.
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How do people become Snakes?
There are three routes: the psychopathic personality, the severely stressed, and the disaffected.
The psychopathic personality:
Many business leaders are among the most talented, commendable and well-intentioned people. However, our research indicates that occasionally, psychopathic personalities achieve a leadership role. These people have huge potential to damage the organisation and should be removed firmly and swiftly, but this rarely happens.
The psychopathic personality is narcissistic, egocentric and lacking in remorse or concern for others. They can also be charismatic, captivating and clever at manipulation. Such people who rise to the top in business are able to ‘empathize’ with others. They can ‘read people’ and identify their motives, needs, susceptibilities and vulnerability. This might sound very positive but the psychopath then uses this insight not to support but to destroy the individual and potentially the firm – for the enjoyment of the exercise of power over others. They are excellent ‘role players’ – able to give an impression totally at odds with their intentions and to modify their approach to exploit the situation and turn it to their advantage.
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A snake in the grass is an unethical person, someone who is harmful but who does not seem to be. A snake in the grass may be a sneaky person who appears harmless or even friendly but in fact, is treacherous. The term snake in the grass was first used by the poet Virgil in the third Eclogue is the line latet anguis in herba, which means “a snake lurks in the grass.” Around 1290, the phrase migrated to England as the Latin proverb cum totum fecisse putas, latet anguis in herba, which means “Though everything looks clean, a snake lurks in the grass.” When used as an adjective before a noun, the phrase is hyphenated as in snake-in-the-grass.
Making the decision to leave a marriage is scary: There’s often a deep fear of being alone, not to mention the possibility of an unknown future. So many stick with mediocrity, settling for low-level pain and dissatisfaction instead.
But that’s not your best bet: “Staying in a seriously unhappy marriage can have long-term effects on our mental and emotional health,” says Carrie Cole, a couples therapist and Master Certified Gottman Therapist by the Gottman Institute. Research shows that people in bad marriages usually have low self-esteem, struggle with anxiety and depression, and have a higher rate of illness than those who don’t. People feel sad and grieve when they decide to let go — but people who divorce do recover emotionally, and Cole says most find new relationships. In fact, “one statistic reported that 85 percent of those who divorce remarry within five years,” she says.
If any these signs hit home for you, it’s time to take a hard look at whether this is a marriage you want to stay in.
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Klapow also told me that some men have a hard time realizing that in successful marriages, people continue to evolve and change but within the context of someone else. “Men often want to go about life at their pace. Learn, grow, change (or not change) as individuals,” he explained. “What they don’t understand is that their growth or lack thereof has a direct impact on their partner. Often men find themselves being forced to finally grow up and they don’t like it. They love their wives but they want their lives to be the same.”
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His need for external validation from her is insatiable. His subsequent dark moods, angry outbursts and seething resentment create a predictable pattern in their relationship.
How can he make her more appreciative and desirous of him?
Shouldn’t she want to make him happy?
Being a Happy Man First – Happy Husband Second
Kevin’s personal challenge is hardly rare these days.
I didn’t escape it either.
It’s the mindset and belief that we are dependent on outside validation and acceptance in order to be happy men.
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