People often excuse a behaviour if there are extenuating circumstances.
We tend to forgive, downplay or simply ignore it, because we realise that the person doing the behaviour is going through something significant and therefore are ‘not themselves’ at the moment.
If somebody just lost a loved one, they could be excused for having a shorter temper then usual or for crying openly in public. Leaving social gatherings early or for not coming in the first place is completely understandable. Because we know that that person is suffering, we tend to look at their behaviour with more empathy.
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It is a sad truth that being sick, whether it be an acute or a chronic condition, does not instantly canonize someone into sainthood. Often, the opposite is true and the bitterness and shock of illness, and the treatment we receive due to illness, can sour a person’s outlook and turn us into people we don’t want to be, people we never thought we could be. In reality, sickness isn’t just a battle for our health but also a long struggle to retain our humanity. Negative emotion can be a dominating aspect of chronic illness and often that negativity can be focused in the wrong places. While we may feel rightfully hard done by, we can inadvertently let those moments of despair and hate – those moments where we really think how unfair it all us – spill onto our relationships
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When I started working on this topic, I honestly took my time to try to understand if mental illness is an excuse for bad behaviour. Questions kept popping into my head, questions like ‘ If someone has depression, does that make it an excuse for their quick temper and cancellation of plans?’, ‘ If someone has anxiety, does over-drinking alcohol to numb the pain or avoiding social situations, is that an excuse?’. ‘ What of bipolar disorder, does being agitated and irritable serve as an excuse as well?’. Questions like this filled my head until I remembered two novels I read long ago, I don’t remember the titles, but in the first one, the lady was diagnosed with depression, and she used that as an excuse for everything, taking it to her advantage to procrastinate her work projects or get pity from people, often with a ghost smart smile playing on her lips. In the other book, it was about a young couple, so in love and all, until the husband went to war and completely changed, and according to the symptoms he portrayed, it was similar to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, PTSD. He had night terrors, was uncontrollably angry and very irritable.
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Mental illness is not an excuse to be a horrible person. Sometimes, people say things when they’re angry. Sometimes they say things that are really mean and hurtful and can upset people. A lot of times, that can be due to a struggle with a mental illness. But repeating hurtful choices is just that – a choice. A nasty pattern of behaviour is not something that should be allowed simply because someone has a mental illness. Blaming bad behaviour on mental illness comes in many forms. A person will say something offensive, and others will come to their defence by mentioning their mental illness, as though that gives people a free pass to hurt others. Or someone will use mental illness to excuse their own behaviour, accepting hurtful choices as just part of their illness or using their illness to justify their poor treatment of others. The reality is this: Mental illness is not a free pass to be cruel, offensive, or to engage in toxic behaviour.
Read more: https://metro.co.uk/2018/06/03/mental-illness-doesnt-excuse-treating-people-badly-7564873/?ito=cbshare
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Rudeness is not okay.
I find it interesting that when most people read the previous sentence, they either have one of two reactions:
1) They agree with the fact that rudeness is not okay.
2) They try to come up with excuses for when rudeness would be okay.
One option makes complete logical sense, while the other option is unspeakably lame and does nothing to make this world a more positive place (I’m sure you know which one is which.)
I actually just looked this up, but according to Merriam-Webster, being rude is officially defined as “not having or showing concern or respect for the rights and feelings of other people.”
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