My parents and childhood were difficult but does that make them toxic?
No. There are ‘difficult’ parents, and there are toxic parents.
The difficult ones cause their child to be cautious and to have to adapt their behaviour around them; whereas the toxic parents are much more detrimental to their child’s personality development and character formation.
If your parents were a bit moody, or perhaps stressed due to financial, relationship or family issues, or pre-occupied with work and physically or emotionally unavailable for you. Or maybe they felt resentful and bitter about being trapped in parenthood. This is all emotionally neglectful to a young child and perhaps abusive (depending upon the circumstances) – but not necessarily toxic.