And now, if you are reading this, maybe you have realised that one of your parents has lied to you, used you against the other parent, used you to support them in their needs when they should have supported you as you developed.
Maybe you are realising that not everything you have been told or even what you thought of the parent whom you have lost may be true. In fact, you may not even be sure how you even arrived at the views you have of the parent whom you have lost from your life!
Maybe you have had a precipitating event, something as happened in your own life, a relationship, a relationship breaking up, children, a crisis in your life that has brought all this to a head. If you are at the stage where you have already had children of your own, then how will your children know their grandparents?
Your partner may have a rich and full life with his or her extended family. So what of your own rich and full life with your extended family? What about that opportunity to your children?