From my experience over several decades as a therapist, mediator, lawyer, and trainer with High Conflict Institute, I have seen that many people often miss the seriousness of the warning signs of NPD (“Oh, she’s just a little self-absorbed”) and totally miss the signs of ASPD (“Oh, he’s just a narcissist” when he’s really a sociopath or both). While I don’t want to over-generalize or frighten people—these personality disorders exist on a continuum of severity—I believe that all of us need awareness of these personalities in today’s world to avoid being misled and caught by surprise.
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“Narcissism falls along the axis of what psychologists call personality disorders, one of a group that includes antisocial, dependent, histrionic, avoidant and borderline personalities. But by most measures, narcissism is one of the worst, if only because the narcissists themselves are so clueless.” ~Jeffrey Kluger
A report in Cosmopolitan Magazine offers ten very insightful points into the psyche of your everyday, average narcissist – and if you keep these in mind when you’re dealing with one, you’ll find yourself feeling much more in control of the situation.
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KEEP BEING WHO YOU ARE
Do not turn into a bitter or angry person. That is not you. Move on from the abuse and keep being who you have always been. Do not worry about the smear campaigns. Do not worry about what the narcissist and what they are saying to other people. Remember anyone that knows you knows who you are and they know what really happened between you and the narcissist.
When you want something to happen so badly and try forcing it, it almost never happens. When you let go of the NEED of it happening that when you will start to see results. Trust the process of life.
Trust that others will see what you see and even if some never do that has nothing to do with you. For your own sake, happiness, peace and contentment LET IT GO!
Remember forgiveness and letting go is for no one but yourself.
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You want others to see the evil. You want others to see the manipulation. You want others to see the pain and abuse you had to go through.
Since this person is very good at playing a character you want to expose them for who they really are. You want others to see all the dysfunction and mistreatment you experienced. Since they know how to appear like a “great guy” or a “sweet girl” it can often frustrate the victims of narcissistic abuse.
You do not want people to see them as this false image they pretend to be. It would help if others could see what you have seen which is a hurtful, abusive, selfish, manipulative, controlling person.
While it is completely valid that you want others to see this person for who they really are, the reality is some people may never see the narcissist like you have seen them.
The reason why is because the narcissist does not have the same relationship with others as they did with you. Your dynamic with this person was different. The only person who will see the abuse, dysfunction and manipulation is another victim.
If you really want others to see the narcissist for who they are here is what you must do.
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Liars can’t Handle the Truth
The truth is very difficult to accept because it requires a person to be accountable for what is going on in their life. If a person chooses not to see what is going on, they don’t have to deal with it. This is a very destructive behavior and it can lead one down a path that is not only lonely but nothing in life will seem to go well. This behavior will make people say things that aren’t true, look at people from the wrong perspective and it creates selfish tendencies. If accepting the truth means compromising ones self indulgences they may strive to keep away from the truth. Heck, denying the truth will keep one free from being accused because their cop-out will be “I didn’t know”. How do you get real answers in life if you can’t reach a person because they refuse to deal with life? It is very difficult and it can become a problem for everyone else around that individual.
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You Can’t Handle The Truth” is a memorable quote from the 1992 military court drama film A Few Good Men, which is often used to deny someone information that has been deemed too sensitive. The phrase has since inspired quite a few parodies based on the snowclone template “You can’t handle the X!”
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“What goes around comes around” or “as you sow, so shall you reap” is the basic understanding of how karma, the law of cause and effect, works. The word karma literally means “activity.” Karma can be divided up into a few simple categories — good, bad, individual and collective. Depending on one’s actions, one will reap the fruits of those actions. The fruits may be sweet or sour, depending on the nature of the actions performed. Fruits can also be reaped in a collective manner if a group of people together perform a certain activity or activities.
Everything we say and do determines what’s going to happen to us in the future. Whether we act honestly, dishonestly, help or hurt others, it all gets recorded and manifests as a karmic reaction either in this life or a future life. All karmic records are carried with the soul into the next life and body.
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what goes around comes around
What goes around comes around. If you ignore the other guy when he asks for help, you might just be setting yourself up for a little of the same later on.
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To receive as a reward or harvest in the same measure as one’s exertions, in a good or a bad sense. To receive justice.
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