Interestingly, there are remarkable similarities between the self-created world of the alienator, and those of criminals and hypochondriacs.
Criminals treat life as a game, where it is them against the world. They are in constant contest against others, and must always win, at any cost. Wilson Van Dusen in his work as a clinical psychologist, experienced criminals in this way: “The criminal world is sort of turned inside out, with no centre, no source, no inner basis. Life is a contest in which you have to be very alert and ready to dissemble to win your end.”
Similar to criminals, alienators can adapt like a chameleon to be able to project the image of themselves and circumstances that puts them in the best light. The lack of centre allows them to seamlessly switch gears and convincingly cover doubts or redirect attention away from themselves when needed. It seems there are almost no limits to how far they will go to get what they want. Their focus is always on themselves, although they attempt to cleverly cloak it as concern for the child. But every action taken or comment made by someone else, is considered solely by how it affects the alienator, and no one else. Winning to fill their own need is their reason for being.
Hypochondriacs are the also the centre of their own world. Life revolves around their illness, real or not, like it is the very center of their being. They focus on it excessively, and expect every one else to be concerned for them. Van Dusen explains that people like this “look so closely at illness as to magnify it, and so many other aspects of life are lost from their view. Their entire being has become sick and is dying and crying out for help, and in some respects this is true. But they have it projected onto the world. They don’t realize that as world-makers they have made themselves a sick world, and they expect the outer world to get alarmed and care for them.”