There’s a social distribution feature with this attachment-related pathology surrounding divorce. All sorts of non-involved people become vicariously hooked to the enactment of the pathology, supporting the narcissistic pathology and the emotional abuse of the targeted-rejected parent by the narcissistic spouse.
It’s such an odd feature of pathology. Remember how I say that the pathology teaches? This pathology has a social distribution feature that’s not found in other pathology, not ADHD, not autism-spectrum, not school behavior problems.
About a year ago, a parent-advocate organized a seminar presentation from Dorcy Pruter and Dr. Childress to a group of family law attorneys in Southern California. In introducing us, the parent-advocate spoke about the “armor of God.” She had interesting things to say about this construct.
I had never heard of that construct before, the armor of God. I listened, it seemed like a nice construct but not one I had ever thought about. Since then, however, the construct makes complete sense, and is wise beyond measure for the fight with the pathogen.
This is a trauma pathogen, it creates high intensity conflict. It enjoys conflict, it wants conflict, and it creates conflict. It loves to create conflict and fighting. How do you fight against fighting without succumbing to the fighting? Don’t fight.
Gandhi said that the antidote is the opposite. The antidote for fighting, is not to fight. Wisdom.
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