THERAPY IS FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE WEAK
DITTO: I just don’t see the point of therapy or Can’t people just solve things on their own?
A woman I’ll call Kate recently came for a consultation and said, “I waited so long to come to therapy because a close friend, who I know has my best interests at heart, kept telling me I should be able to handle my problems on my own. She insisted I’m stronger than I think and therapy is for the weak.” Kate added, “I am so glad I found the courage to finally stop listening to her.”
Therapy is for people who are weak is one of the worst things you can say to anyone in a fragile state. Such a statement is a horrific reinforcement of the negative stigma against admitting to having a mental health illness, much less seeking help. The truth is that it takes strength to admit one needs help. If you insist on saying this harmful phrase to someone clearly suffering, you need to look at your own issues and prejudices.