The problem begins when someone is always focused on their agenda without regard to the other people around them. They learn how to “trick” someone into believing that what they are doing is for them when only it benefits the trickster – otherwise known as a manipulator.
Master manipulators do not want to be seen in a bad light, so they avoid being direct and honest. Instead, they will have others do their dirty work so they can avoid the “bad guy” syndrome. They talk behind our backs, rally the support of our closest friends, and mount a campaign to prove they are right, and we’re wrong. They are verbally supportive but act in very unsupportive ways.
Manipulators carry a dark cloud around with them, and when they enter a room, they make a point of making sure everyone notices. Instead of working the room in a normal fashion, they are looking for everyone to display sympathy and work to make them “feel better.” They want to be the “cause” because it is more likely to get them what they want.