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If You had a Manipulative Parent, These are the Effects

Manipulation is a dangerous ploy, and when used by parents, can significantly disrupt a child’s mental health and stability as they get older. If you grew up with a manipulative parent, you’ve likely struggled with a variety of mental and social issues. Psychological Today states that when it comes to parenting, manipulation can take many shapes whether you’re a child or adult:

  • Insisting on meeting you and interacting with you in a physical space where they can exercise more dominance and control over you; this could be at their home, their office, etc.
  • Allowing you to speak first so they can establish a baseline for your thinking to evaluate your strengths and weaknesses
  • Lying, making excuses, saying something other than the truth to people without you knowing, blaming you for your own “victimization”, strategic disclosure or withholding of valuable information from you, etc.
  • Intellectual bullying – using data and statistics to give them knowledge leverage over you
  • Raising their voice and displaying negative emotions to control you
  • Using silence as a leverage and ignoring you
  • Negatively surprising you by throwing you off-balance with saying or doing something to which you have no time to think about your response

There are many other ways that a parent can be manipulative, but the effects on the child are long-lasting. Researchers at the University of Virginia followed 184 people from the time they were 13, 18, and 21, exploring the amount of “psychological control” participants reported their parents exert over them. Psychological control was identified as using guilt, withdrawing love, fostering anxiety, and more.


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