Caretakers may give to try to avoid rejection, but they may also be coming from a desire to fix the other person so as not to feel their pain.
What do you do when you are a deeply empathic person — a person who feels other people’s feelings in your own body — and someone you care about is in pain?
Of course, you want to do all you can to help to relieve the pain. On the surface, there is nothing wrong with this.
But, it can lead to the trap of caretaking.
For example, Linda is a deeply empathic person. She was born into a family where she was the only one who had deep natural empathy.
As a result, she ended up being the person whom her parents and siblings relied on for caring and support.
In her marriage, the same thing occurred. She ended up giving while everyone else — her husband and children — ended up taking.