There are a number of reasons people play mind games, but the goal is usually to gain a sense of control or power over another person. The player wants to get a specific response, but instead of telling you what they need or asking for what they want, they try to get their needs met by using manipulative tactics. It’s all about feeling powerful and in control, but those feelings never last for very long. Any time we try to use someone else to make ourselves feel better, it usually doesn’t end well. It’s almost impossible to create an authentic connection with someone when honest communication is missing from the picture.
The best thing to do when you realize someone is playing mind games with you is to bless them with love, stop communicating, and move on with your life. Manipulators have poor personal boundaries and don’t have your best interests at heart. They’ve developed negative coping mechanisms and probably won’t ever change.
It can sometimes be difficult to tell the difference between someone who might be a little insecure or socially awkward from a person who is actively trying to manipulate you. Here are some things to look for to help you figure it out.