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Projection: Narcissists’ Favorite Trick

Ah, projection. The fine art of making me guilty of your vices. Projection No one projects better or more frequently than a narcissist. They’ve practiced, honed and refined projection to a fine art. Whatever they’re up to, by some mental…

Why Project?

Guilt? Maybe.

Envy of other’s innocence? Perhaps.

Avoidance of the result of wrong-doing? Now we’re getting somewhere.

The need to be perfect! Bingo + all of the above.

Gotta protect that fragile little ol’ ego, y’know.

Source: Projection: Narcissists’ Favorite Trick

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What’s a Narcissist’s Punishment?

How Abusers Get Away with Their Behavior

People with strong narcissistic, psychopathic, or sociopathic tendencies, abusers, manipulators, and otherwise harmful people tend to hurt others. Sometimes they do it overtly, even proudly, and in other cases it’s covert or maybe even unconscious. Sometimes it’s well planned and calculated, while other times it’s careless and reactionary.

Sometimes these people are identified and are forced to accept the consequences of their wrongdoings, while other times they get away with their behavior. And in certain social environments they, horrifyingly, are rewarded for their narcissistic and otherwise hurtful behavior.

Source: What’s a Narcissist’s Punishment?

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Let them reap what they sow.

Here are some questions to ask yourself that will encourage you to set mature boundaries so that others can accept the consequences of their own actions:

Ask yourself:

Whose responsibility is this, really?

Am I really serving this person by suffering the consequences of their actions for them?

What will happen of this pattern continues on forever?

How will this person benefit if I refuse to suffer the consequences for his actions?

How am I sabotaging myself and other concerned parties by taking too much responsibility?

Stop taking on unnecessary responsibility for other adults and require them to deal with their own actions. Only then can they learn from their mistakes, and be motivated to avoid making them again.

Let them reap what they sow.

Source: How to Handle Adults Who Take No Responsibility for Their Actions

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How to Handle Adults Who Take No Responsibility for Their Actions

“You reap whatever you sow.” (Gal. 6:7) We have all heard about the law of reaping what you sow. It is much like the law of cause and effect. For instance, if you smoke, you most likely will suffer the harsh side effects such as cancer,…

We all know the consequences of our actions, but what happens when someone never learns to accept them?

Well, they never learn. They keep repeating the same mistakes over and over, without ever figuring out how to avoid negative consequences in the first place.

How does this happen? The most common explanation is that someone else is interfering.

It’s a frequent occurrence that someone can interrupt the law of cause and effect on someone else’s life. An example of this could be a mother constantly stepping in and saving their adult son or daughter from a difficult situation, such as continually paying off their bills.

The mother is shielding their adult child from the harsh reality of reckless actions. The adult child is being encouraged to not learn their lesson and is very likely to do it all over again. In fact, there is no reason not to.

Source: How to Handle Adults Who Take No Responsibility for Their Actions

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Parental Alienation and the Christmas Present Competition

Earlier this year, I wrote ‘Alienated Fathers: Don’t you DARE Give Up!‘ about Chris Mackney, an alienated father who couldn’t take the pain any longer and took his own life four days after Christmas. What I wrote then goes for all the fathers (and mothers) out there who are alienated and finding it harder than ever to bear at Christmastime.

‘Hang in there! Your children love you, no matter what lies their mother has told them about you. A child’s love for their parents is almost impossible to kill. I know how much you love them. In the deepest recesses of their souls, they love you too.

Hang in there! Even if your visitation rights have been removed or your ex refuses to allow you to see them, they know you’re there. So be there. Anywhere. Just having Daddy somewhere, thinking about them, means the world to them. They’re thinking about you too.

Hang in there! Don’t give up. Don’t you dare give up, Sir! Seek counselling if you can, but be sure it’s with a counsellor or therapist who understands the cruel minutiae of Parental Alienation. A therapist who will believe you and believe in you, even if the whole world, your ex, her attorney and the judge accuse you of lying because you’re so upset that you begin sweating and shaking in court.’

Source: Parental Alienation and the Christmas Present Competition

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‘intimate terrorism’: Parental alienation

The scene: a bitter divorce, and a custody battle over the couple’s 7-year-old son. Awarded full custody, the mother — perhaps seeking revenge? — sets out to destroy the son’s relationship with his father. The mother tells the son lies about the father’s behavior, plants seeds of doubt about his fitness as a parent, and sabotages the father’s efforts to see his son. The son begins to believe the lies; as he grows up, his relationship with his father becomes strained. Continue reading “‘intimate terrorism’: Parental alienation”

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Happy New Year 2019 a Fresh Start

that on this New Year’s Eve a miracle can occur.

Tonight we ring out the old and ring in the new. And

more–much more–can change than simply the dates
on the calendar. You can resolve this night to change
your entire life…or any aspect of your self and your
experience that you choose.

And should old acquaintance be forgot, and never

brought to mind? No. Keep old friends near, and
old loves dear. For they will help you make those
changes in your life that will produce miracles, if you
let them. Happy, happy New Year!