It is intense anger directed outward toward another thing or person. Sometimes it is directed inward and will manifest in self-injurious behavior. Most often borderline rage is directed at the person you care most about — the person you want most to love you. This sets up an almost endless tug of war between the person diagnosed with BPD and their loved one. In some cases, borderline rage can be directed at anyone in the room; any convenient target, that is. These bouts of intense anger are quite often sparked by the person’s desire to be close to their loved one but being afraid to trust them enough to allow them to be close enough to care, and thus reject them.