If you can identify with any of these signs of gaslighting, it is important that you seek professional help right away. Your doctor can recommend a counselor who is equipped to help you process and deal with what is happening to you. In the meantime, remember that you are not to blame for what you are experiencing. The person gaslighting you is making a choice to behave this way. He or she is to blame. You did not ask for it. You did not cause it. And you did not bring it upon yourself.