The children are “under the spell” of the alienator and especially when young, follow all direction from and adopt all the opinions of the alienator and it is important to remember that … whatever the children do or say it is not of their own free mind, it is what they are coached/instructed into saying and doing and it is only when they are mature enough that, with or without intervention, they have any chance of working out the truth and discovering their own thoughts and feelings.
Dr. Douglas Darnall in his book Divorce Casualties: Protecting Your Children from Parental Alienation, describes three categories of PA:
MILD: Naïve alienators
Naïve alienators are ignorant of what they are doing and are willing to be educated and change.
When triggered, active alienators lose control of appropriate boundaries. They go ballistic. When they calm down, they don’t want to admit that they were out of control.
Obsessed alienators operate from a delusional system where every cell of their body is committed to destroying the other parent’s relationship with the child.
In the case of the Obsessed alienator, no treatment exists other than removing the child from their influence.