When someone we love is accused/guilty of a crime and/or arrested or sentenced to some period of time in jail or prison it is not ONLY the person involved in or accused of a crime or that is arrested, it is the entire network of family and friends belonging to that person.
For some families this is the first time in generations that a member of the family (guilty or innocent) has been arrested in the memory of the family. Other times, being accused of a crime or being arrested is something that is not unknown. Possibly there has been or is abuse or dysfunction in the family.
We may spend an inordinate amount of time and money and/or therapy trying to figure out “what happened,” “Why did this happen in our family!?” “Could I have prevented this situation if I had just done something differently?” But YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Even though you may not even know someone who has ever committed a crime worse than jaywalking prior to this event, or you may have “seen it coming”– it doesn’t matter what your individual family’s situation is. Right this moment there are 2.5 MILLION people in jail or prison in the US and they all have parents, children, friends, spouses who are as caught up in this as they are.