When you suspect that someone has hidden motives, you can feel anxious about dealing with them. In this article we will look at 5 ways to spot hidden motives and what you can do about preventing yourself from being manipulated.
YOU’RE PICKING UP SOME UNUSUAL BODY LANGUAGE AND EYE CONTACT
YOU HAVE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS AFTER SPEAKING TO THEM
THEY ALWAYS SEEM TO WANT THE SAME THING
USE OF TACTICS TO PERSUADE YOU
YOU ARE NOT THE FOCUS OF YOUR CONVERSATION
The manipulator may pretend to be interested in your personal life but somehow the conversation always returns to focus on them and their needs. Not just their needs, but what they need from you to get what they want.
Once you spot that the person you are dealing with has hidden motives, you can decide to stop dealing with them or tell them that you aren’t getting your needs met. Someone who is only self-focused will not listen to your needs, so it is probably best to avoid dealing with them at all.