The False Self

Malignant narcissism, or NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) is about protection of the false self in order to defend the perceived “damaged goods” that remain concealed beneath; the person they have become.  I use the words “damaged goods” in quotes because this is what one female covert narcissist had revealed during an extremely rare relationship counseling session.  She was scared that if she revealed her true self that people would see her as “damaged goods” and she thought this because deep down inside she saw herself as damaged goods, damaged by the negative experiences she had been through during her childhood (sexual abuse) which had ultimately led to the development of her compulsion to develop and uphold her false self.  She had many underlying insecurities and a highly distorted view of the world.  Her values and beliefs were completely skewed by her early (negative) experiences in life.  She believed that the world (and everyone in it) were indebted to give her the life she desired yet that life she so desired was nothing more than sitting around repeatedly day after day while she had everyone else running round after her and she was having multiple secret affairs.  She even had a second life* with one of her secret partners which had gone on for nearly a decade.

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