How should one react when a formerly loving child turns belligerent and hostile?
Our natural instinct is to become defensive, trying to counter each attack by justifying everything we have done and are doing. We are fighting a losing battle in which both our child and we lose if we react in that way. There is a winner however: the alienating parent. So, what should we do – just sit there, silent while our child insults us (likely saying things that make you want to shake your head in disbelief)? Yes, unless it becomes too brutal. Allow them to verbalize how they are feeling. Remember that they too are victims of P.A.S. who are not allowed to voice any feelings that differ from that of the alienating parent. Also remember this is their reality. When they finish their tirade, acknowledge their words – let them know they have been heard in a non-judgmental way.