If you’ve been making large debits from your joint bank account without first conferring with your partner, this may be a sign of a bigger problem. When one partner does this, it usually points to more serious problems in the relationship. Does the partner have a secret gambling addiction? Is he or she having an affair or helping other family members out financially?
If you’re the one doing this, focus on the problem driving the withdrawals. Talk to your partner about what’s going on, and consider getting professional help and guidance on how to resolve the underlying problem.