Your sense of power and strength are fraudulent, they are a mirage that you have created to help you cope, and even if everyone else falls for your sleight of hand, on some level you never do. Like we said, this conflict between what you truly believe you are deep down and what you are trying to make yourself believe you are on the surface is what invariably leads to a host of symptoms, symptoms that you are likely to disconnect from the source to further protect yourself from facing the truth.
One of the routes for change is to do away with comparing yourself to others, consciously deciding to stop focusing on whether you are superior or inferior in terms of intelligence, success, popularity, or any other variable. The real question to ask yourself is if you feel lovable, and if the answer is no, then the primary goal has got to be creating the mental, emotional, and environmental conditions where accepting love and authentic admiration from others is possible. Only when you feel good about yourself can you hope to become more powerful in a healthy way, a way that doesn’t come attached to problems in functioning and relating.