Forgiveness is not passive, but an active gesture of releasing feelings like anger, guilt, and resentment, all of which deplete us if we become lost in them. Forgiveness demands presence, reminding us that we are not the same as the feelings we possess in a given situation, nor is the person who we’ve harmed or who has harmed us.
Traditionally, the meditation is done in three parts:
- first, you ask forgiveness from those you have harmed;
- next, you extend forgiveness to those who have harmed you; and
- the final practice is that of self-forgiveness, for all of those times we harm ourselves with judgmental habits of mind.