It is so sad to watch your children being emotionally manipulated by their narcissistic parent. It is a complicated situation and difficult to know how to respond. How can you help your children when they are being co-raised by you and this type of parent? Here are some suggestions on how to navigate this difficult situation: Honesty – Give your children the gift of honesty. Talk frankly with your children about the reality of their lives, respectfully and matter-of-factly. Do not play the game of ‘Let’s pretend everything’s normal.’ Do not contribute to your children’s sense of cognitive dissonance by discounting the fact that the ’emperor has no clothes.’ Education – Teach your children about manipulation and emotional abuse. Try to keep it as age-appropriate as possible. This can be tricky, but you know your kids and what they can handle and understand? Keep it simple and keep it real. Teach them how to not get sucked in to the drama. Role Modeling – Be a good role model.
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