Do you have a friend or family member who is controlled by a spouse or partner — isolated, degraded, and micromanaged? Whether or not the relationship includes physical violence, he or she may be a victim of a type of abuse that is called “coercive control.”
It is hard to watch someone you care about suffer at the hands of a controlling partner or ex-partner. You may feel like rescuing the victim. You may feel like killing the abuser. You may get so frustrated that you want to walk away. It may make you weep with anger or sadness.
Don’t give up. Long-term patterns of abuse and control usually require long-term patterns of assistance before the victim can escape.