- Predators behave monstrously but do not look like monsters. They are able to and inclined to act ‘normally’ in most situations. Disclosures of abuse are often dismissed because authorities do not see the type of unhideable deviancy that they assume would accompany abusive tendencies. What is not understood is that niceness is a choice not a character trait. Predators make different choices in public than in private.
- Grooming becomes a well-practiced art through repetition. So does deception and lying. The predator is always moving serially to new victims, which means that he is indeed a ‘professional among amateurs.’
- Victims are generally not believed, for many reasons including being children, being women, being lower social status, being traumatized, being trafficked, being addicted, and coming from a marginalized groups. Predators target victims that will not be believed.