Your gut is screaming at you. You know what you’ve seen and heard.
The narcissist in your life – a partner, colleague, even a friend – is denying it. It didn’t happen. You’re imagining it. Made it up. You’re too sensitive. You’re exaggerating. That’s gaslighting.
They’re lying to you. Bald-faced lies that you can even prove are false. Yet they tell you it’s you who is telling untruths.
They’re having an affair, but accuse you of being the unfaithful one. That’s gaslighting too.
You can’t understand it. It’s so obvious to you, but it’s like rationalizing with someone incapable of seeing sense.
You express your concerns with them about any of the above. The conversation gets twisted. The problem lies with you. Your sensitivity, your insecurity, your paranoia.
You walk on eggshells around them as you’re always to blame. It’s your perception that’s wrong, not the perpetrator’s abusive behavior.