Deflection is an intense focus upon and antagonism toward the legitimacy of the actions, feelings, and beliefs of others, especially the partner, and an intense misdirection of attention away from the primary aggressor’s actions. When asked to focus on himself and his actions, he will be seemingly unable to do it. Deflection is both a tactic and an instinct. Any attempt to talk about conditions, feelings, or actual behavior is met with a barrage of argument and blame. of others. It produces a climate of contentiousness that takes over any situation. Overall the solution, where possible, is to stay out of the details completely, and point out and reject the overall process. Deflection manifests itself in the aspects listed below.