Answer: In The Empath’s Survival Guide, I write a lot about the toxic attraction betwen narcissists and empaths. Narcissists are deceptive because they can be so charming and intelligent until you don’t go along with their program. Then they become cold, punching, and rejecting. On the surface narcissists can seem intelligent and caring—knowing how to entice and lure their way into your life. Their motto will always be “Me First!” Everything’s all about them. They have a grandiose sense of self-importance and entitlement, crave admiration and attention. They can also be highly intuitive, but use their intuition for self-interest and manipulation.