Narcisistics are often leaders because they crave being ‘seen’ by others, but they also find it hard to feel empathy. They may feel really privileged to hold a secret as it can inflate their ego, but it may be very powerful to share it with others. It can also be difficult for them to understand how devastating it is to break someone’s trust by disclosing a secret. The leader of the ‘gang’ standing around the watercooler is usually a narcissist. It can make them feel good to collect secrets, but also to decide when to share them, so they can stay the centre of attention.