Everyone who knows me knows that I don’t do ultimatums. I will never choose the person that says “it’s me or them.” That may sound conceited or maybe a bit crazy, but really, why should I give up on someone who cares about me enough to let me choose who I talk to, or what I do, for someone who only wants to be a part of my life if they can tell me what to do with it?
I wasn’t always like this. For years, I put my own feelings aside and let countless people walk all over me in order to avoid issues and spare feelings. I used to be so scared about hurting people that I would walk around on eggshells in order to keep them happy. I was even naïve enough to let my friends tell me what to do and who to talk to just to avoid conflicts. Eventually, I was going to bed almost every night in tears because of what my so-called friends were encouraging me to do, and how they made me feel when I refused to do so.
Soon, I began to hate the person I saw in the mirror. I was no longer the happy-go-lucky girl that I once was, but instead, a hollowed out version of my old self. I went on like this for a while and then I finally realized something: friends like these aren’t worth having. This was a huge wake-up call for me, I realized that I had the power to remove any sort of toxicity from my life and that is exactly what I did, and now, I’m a happier and healthier person because of it.