After a betrayal, many people experience shame. The “I should have known better” statements and guilt develops, and they are very difficult to silence. The self-critical thoughts only hurt the healing process. Because you were betrayed, it does not mean that you did something wrong or that you are foolish.
As mentioned before, healing takes a different amount of time for everyone. It is a process that cannot be rushed. Sometimes, the betrayal can actually make us better. Learning how to recover from trauma with dignity, class, and self-worth is a valuable skill to have. Focusing on your strength and resilience instead of the weakness and pain you might have felt, will allow you to develop a powerful sense of worth and develop a positive self esteem.