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“I Know You’re Lying—and It’s Okay.”

Nobody tells the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Memories don’t play events back like digital cameras. We tend to see things only from one point of view (ours) and remember them a little differently each time. After all, says Bea, “people are telling us their version of how they’re experiencing things.” Add to that: We sometimes directly lie because we think certain details are irrelevant, embarrassing or personal (“I never smoke! I only eat organic! And I never, ever get mad at my mother.”) In most cases, counselors will keep quiet about when they suspect we’re fudging things a bit, even unconsciously, because calling someone a liar during a session can intimidate a person, destroying trust rather than creating it. Instead, they prefer to wait for us, subtly asking questions that reveal our conflicting accounts and offering us other opportunities to share more honest and—usually more revealing—portrayals of our lives.

http://www.oprah.com/spirit/what-your-psychologist-is-really-thinking

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Living the dream in SW France-Retired Love Swimming, Rambling, Labrador's, Pilates, Photography, Astronomy, Reiki, Travelling. Currently studying Psychology, and member of NAAP. I believe in truth, honesty, karma and integrity! KEEPING IT REAL - No one likes someone who lies and lives a different life on social media than they do in real life. ≧◔◡◔≦

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