1. They give you a compliment and you feel like you have been slapped.
2. They are only happy with you if you let them win at everything
3. They flirt with your husband or boyfriend.
4. Their every day talk is peppered with put downs.
5. They are jealous of your other friends.
A person with this personality tries to control all of your communication for their own perceived benefit. If they feel that you are getting too attached to someone else, they see it as a threat and work directly or covertly to destroy your relationships.
Harmful lies are invented and spread without any thought of the havoc they wreak.
6. They make you feel ugly, stupid and unlovable.
Every utterance from a person like this is designed to make you feel inferior so that you can be used. If you’ve ever heard of the term, “energy vampires,”
7. They seem coldly calculating.
They may profess to love you more than anything else in the world but there is no smile behind their eyes. There is no warmth in their embrace. You feel on guard when you are with them. All of your gut feelings in these instances are more than likely correct.
8. They are extremely vengeful of perceived slights.
Any “sin” you have ever committed in their eyes, gets entered into a mental list of your crimes and are trotted out every time they think they need to put you back under their control.
Everything bad you have ever done to them (in their eyes) is so bad it cannot possibly be corrected whereas anything bad they have done to you is nothing. You are being too sensitive or you making a big deal over nothing. They will tell you how It just goes to prove how weak and stupid you are and how superior they are, never in plain language of course but you will come away with that unmistakable idea.
9. They take pleasure in other people’s pain.
10. Your life has suddenly has gone out of control.
The entrance into your life of one of these personality types can cause untold destruction to you and everyone around you. What looks like a streak of “bad luck” nine times out of ten is the poisoning of your environment by one of these energy vampires. Normal people of good will can create energy. They use their energy and turn it into what they need in order to survive better and to help others survive better.