Although you probably have the general idea of what an ultimatum is, it might surprise you to know that if you look up the definitions of the word, one is a “demand” and two synonyms are “warning” and “threat”. Relationships are supposed to be rooted and grounded in love and mutual desire for growth—both together and as individuals. The minute it starts entering into the demand-warning-threat zone, things are about to become pretty unhealthy. You deserve to be in the kind of relationship where you don’t have to demand to be seen or threaten to leave in order for someone to pay attention to your needs. And they deserve to be in the kind of relationship where they don’t have to walk on an eggshell of warnings all of the time. Love and threats are not designed to work hand-in-hand. Ever.