1. A FRENEMY WANTS INSTANT ATTENTION.
2. A FRENEMY OVER-SHARES.
3. A FRENEMY INTENTIONALLY SABOTAGES.
A frenemy’s aim is never to help one to be more successful than them but to make sure that we fail, or perhaps feel unhappy about the situation. A frenemy often exhibits passive-aggressive behaviors and sometimes they display a clear intent of sabotage.
She will not be happy when everything is going well but would seem nearly gleeful when everything is going terribly. When something great happens like a new career, a raise, a fresh love, the frenemy downplays it or causes it to seem like a fluke.
4. A FRENEMY ELICITS THAT NAGGING FEELING.
If there is the continual feeling that somebody is not being dependable or has an ulterior motive in seeking our friendship, pay attention – it is probably right. We need to listen to and trust our gut.
5. A FRENEMY FREQUENTLY INSULTS OTHERS.
Most of her social networking updates include veiled insults about us or other friends. A frenemy does not celebrate our wins but will gleefully, albeit secretly, remind us of our failings. She often finds reasons to make fun of us or challenge our competence.
6. A FRENEMY LIKES TO DIG UP DIRT.
Frenemies feed upon negative info and usually look to get more. Whenever we say we are feeling a little bit down, they would like to know why. Was it an argument with one’s spouse? Are we depressed? The next day, they will move further and ask something different. They love to revel in our misery while pretending to be interested in our well-being.
7. A FRENEMY DISGUISES COMPLAINTS AS HUMOR.
Frenemies like to put people down, even in front of others. When questioned, they usually claim it was meant to be light-hearted, opening up the door for another slam. This might sound familiar, “I was just kidding. Many people just cannot take a joke.”
Frenemies like sarcasm and they’re masters of the “Who, me?” game.
Friends might take part in good-natured ribbing. However, they respect our feelings. Frenemies utilize humor as a cover up for dealing hurtful blows.
8. FRENEMIES MAKE US FEEL AS IF WE ARE WRONG.
Frenemies rarely give anyone the benefit of the doubt. Instead of assuming the best of intentions, they take everything personally, even if it is unrelated and make us feel we are to blame.
9. FRENEMIES OVERREACT WHEN CHALLENGED.
Unreasonable and often over-reactions can occur when we challenge a frenemy about their behavior. They are surprised and angered by the lack of faith when we question something the frenemy is doing or requesting. They refuse to discuss it and expect our complete and blind agreement with their plans.
10. FRENEMIES ARE INSENSITIVE.
Lastly, they are insensitive. They are quick to offer advice when we are experiencing trying times but can’t see the value in the advice we give them.