This is the last resort, usually when they’ve been blatantly caught or called out for something they know they did wrong. (Remember, shame is an unacceptable sensation to people with Cluster-B disorders). And so they throw a completely unfounded, terrible accusation at you.
You thought you had a slam-dunk case. Proof. Evidence. Everything. And then they come back with this:
- Well, you abused me.
- You hit me
- You raped me
- You cheated on me
- You never loved me
- You’re mentally ill
- You’re stalking me
Suddenly your slam dunk case isn’t such a slam dunk anymore. Now you’re defending yourself against wild accusations that you never could have even dreamed of. Who could prepare for that?
And once again, that’s the whole point. The blame is now off of them, and now you’re the one in hot water.