I keep asking myself over and over, what do you really need to do to heal from parental alienation. So many of us are victims of this horrific form of child abuse. We have been the brunt of lie after lie, many of us have been destroyed financially, and worst of all we have lost our children because of the actions of a very selfish individual. We feel so powerless, the situation is totally out of our control and there is nothing we can do about it. You are absolutely right, the sad reality is that no matter how hard we try we can not change our ex-spouses and we can not stop the abusive behaviour. But we do have the ability to change some things. The real question is what can we change?
I know from my own personal experience that as long as I held on to the hurt I gave my ex-husband power in my life. I desperately wanted to be free from him and I found that freedom through forgiveness. Forgiveness has helped me so much over the years in dealing with the courts, my ex-husband, Rick’ ex- wife and all the losses we have experienced.