“What is it that drives these alienating behaviours of yours?”
Anger or Hatred
So to conclude, lets assume, rightly or wrongly your actions are self centred and driven by your own needs. Try and think about the following if you can; whatever the reason or justification you believe makes it acceptable to you to deny those children a relationship with their father, is it ultimately worth the risks discussed above?
One day, whenever that may be, you will ultimately lose out. Your relationship with those children will be under pressure and fragile.
Not if, but when the children find out the truth, obviously such a truth will ultimately jeopardise your relationship with all of them.
And it won’t be because of you or I, it will be because of the truth.
The following quote is taken from the best-selling novel The Kite Runner, by Khaled Hosseini “but better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie.”