What ever your reason is for what you are doing, it is not acceptable.
Your are hurting your children more than you are hurting your ex partner, and for this reason, in your current frame of mind you are not an acceptable parent and nor do you deserve even to be called a parent, as you are in fact a disgrace to parenthood.
You are sick and in need of treatment and are risking being removed from your children’s lives to an arms length relationship with them, possibly even being able to see them under supervision only.
* Is this what you really want ?
* Do you want this to happen ?
You are risking your children’s mental health, your ex partners and certainly your own…and what for ?
* Do you really want to be this person ?
The people around you that you think you have deceived into believing your lies and into supporting you in your actions, will most likely at some point wake up to what you are doing, and will leave you in droves.
* Do you want to loose your family and friends ?
You will at some point, have made a name for yourself with authorities and the public at large for what you are doing and as bad news spreads fast, most decent people will want nothing to do with you. In this age of electronic communications, you can be easily exposed and identified wherever you go. Continue and you will have trouble in relationships yourself, as when your new partner discovers the real you, they too will sooner or later, run.
* Do you want to be a person that can’t be trusted ?
* Do you want to loose your children ?
You are an adult at least in size, the children are defenceless and you are abusing that to your own perverted and wrongly perceived benefit.